8 Top reasons why men cheat

Oh well yeah am not married and am not preparing to do so. But do you know it always bothers me to know why men cheat on their wives?? Okay! Let's go into it.

There are reasons galore why men pull wool over
the eyes of their wives. Oftentimes, it's out of spite
and neglect, while the other times, it's because
they feel they will never be caught.
What makes men cheat? Dr Kamal Khurana,
relationship counselor, dug through past research
on male infidelity, and has even counseled couples
and has arrived at the conclusion that most
answers are from the wife's point of view. Here,
some of his findings:

1. Disturbance in the marriage as the primary
reason

When there are regular fights at home with his
wife, which are left unresolved, a pattern sets in
wherein he continues to be unhappy and
'disturbed'. In this kind of a scenario, either he can
fight or he can flee. When he looks for an affair, he
is looking to flee from dealing with the issues in the
marriage, and be comfortable with that 'other
person'. It is telling oneself that the problems do
not affect anyone and life can continue in a better
way with a parallel support.

2. Cheating men report boredom led to the
affair

Some men may find the routine of a married life to
be tedious and dull. These men find it easier to shift
dominance or primacy to another relationship and
feel the spark outside to be a thrilling option;
instead of finding ways of charging their marriage.
It becomes present moment for gratification versus
the hard job that they will have to do in their
marriage to resolve an issue. The extra-marital
relationship provides them with a ready made and
fresh experience, which is appealing enough to take
the risk.

3. Cheating men love to experiment sexually

Sex has always been and will always be an integral
part of a marriage. While some men are quite
content spending the rest of their lives having sex
with the same wife for many years, others prefer to
experiment more as a need, rather than as an
option. They want to sleep with many women,
many times, and therefore do not think twice
before an extra-marital alliance. It perhaps makes
them feel sexually powerful and more adept than
others.

4. Cheating men are emotionally dissatisfied

When their wives are too busy with their own lives,
working or bringing up children or even looking
after in-laws and parents, emotionally, men are left
high and dry. But men are emotionally driven
beings too. They want their wives to show them
that they're appreciated, and they want women to
understand how hard they're trying to get things
right. Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat
on the back, which is why their emotional needs are
often overlooked. Sometimes the couple may not
be compatible so however much the wife may do,
the man will always find something to complain
about.
It may also happen that the woman he cheats with
is his co-worker or boss, someone who praises him,
looks up to him, and compliments his efforts. That's
another reason why it's so critical that he feel
valued at home.

5. Cheating men have a history of EMR

Some men, in their childhood, may have witnessed
cheating in their parent's marriage. This
somewhere gives them a message that it is okay to
cheat, even though deep inside they know this is
wrong. All of us learn from our parents, so taking
the risk is good enough. This acquired learning also
happens through cheating resorts taken by elder
siblings, neighbours, peer group and everybody
who has been impacted. Sometimes as teenagers
and young adults, some men have had multiple
relationships, these men either intentionally or
accidentally end up going back to their ex-
girlfriends. The other lot goes back to their past
style of having multiple relationships. It is well said,
what a mind thinks, achieves. So there are females
also who are either consciously or unconsciously
looking for such men.

6. Cheating men have wives who cheat

Men also take revenge with their cheating wives, by
having multiple relationships themselves. Even if
their wives are guilty and come accept their extra-
marital relationships, some men continue with their
tricks. This is mostly done by men who don't want
to forgive their spouses.

7. Cheating men think it to be 'divorce'

Some men are willfully adulterous and use it as a
means for acquiring divorce. The law also considers
adultery as a fair ground for the wife to seek a
divorce. The man is cheating openly and is in a non-
receptive mood, taking the wife's feelings of
frustration to an all-time high. Although this
percentage is less but it is there.

8. Cheating men need to be needed

When men feel that they are not needed by their
wife anymore, they look out for some other woman,
who can understand them and make them feel
special. As an obvious outcome of a new
relationship, they get that feeling from the other
woman. And suddenly when they are showered
with attention, which they haven't received in a
very long time in their marriage, they toss their
hands in the air and get deep into the new hot and
happening relationship.